TO LIVE WITHOUT JEALOUSY

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IS IT POSSIBLE TO LIVE WITHOUT JEALOUSY UNLESS ONE IS ENLIGHTENED?

- It is possible. If you are enlightened then the question of jealousy does not arise at all; then it is impossible to have jealousy. Before enlightenment it is possible to live without jealousy. You just have to look into the causes of jealousy.

What makes you jealous? -- possessiveness. Jealousy itself is not the root. You love a woman, you love a man; you want to possess the man or the woman just out of fear that perhaps tomorrow he may move with somebody else. The fear of tomorrow destroys your today, and it is a vicious circle. If every day is destroyed because of the fear of tomorrow, sooner or later the man is going to look for some other woman because you are just a pain in the neck. And when he starts looking for another woman or starts moving with another woman, you think your jealousy has proved right. In fact it is your jealousy that has created the whole thing.

So the first thing to remember is: Don't be bothered about tomorrows; today is enough. Somebody loves you... let this be a day of joy, a day of celebration. Be so totally in love today that your totality and your love will be enough for the man not to move away from you. Your jealousy will move him away; only your love can keep him with you. His jealousy will move you away; his love can keep you with him.

Don't think of tomorrow. The moment you think of tomorrow your living today remains half-hearted. Just live today, and leave tomorrow, it will take its own course. And remember one thing, that if today has been such a beauty of experience, such a blessing -- out of today is born tomorrow, so why be worried about it?
If some day the man you have loved, the woman you have loved finds somebody else -- it is simply human to be happy, but your woman is happy with somebody else -- it does not make any difference whether she is happy with you or happy with somebody else, she is happy. And if you love her so much how can you destroy her happiness?

A real love will always be happy if the partner feels joyous with somebody else. In this situation -- when a woman is with somebody else, and you are still happy and you are still grateful to the woman and you still tell the woman, "You have absolute freedom; just be totally happy, that is my happiness. With whom you are happy is insignificant, what is significant is your happiness" -- my feeling is that she cannot remain away from you for long, she will be back. Who can leave such a man or such a woman?

Your jealousy destroys everything.
Your possessiveness destroys everything.

Before enlightenment you have to understand that what you are gaining out of jealousy you are burning in the fire: the more you become jealous and angry and hateful, the more you are throwing the other person far away from you. It is simple arithmetic that it is not going to help; you are destroying the same thing that you want to preserve.
It is simply idiotic -- it is German!

Just try to understand a simple fact that human beings are human beings. Everybody gets bored with the same person once in a while. Be factual; don't live in fictions. Everybody gets fed up with the same person once in a while. That does not mean that his love has stopped; it simply means a little change is needed. It is good for his health, it is good for your health. You both need a little holiday from each other. Why not do it consciously, "We are feeling stuck. What about having a one-week holiday? I love you, you love me; that is so certain that there is no fear."

My own experience is that after one day's holiday you will fall in love with each other on a higher and deeper level, because now you will see how much you love each other: you cannot even see the sadness that comes naturally by living together. Don't possess each other. Keep the freedom intact so that you don't interfere in each other's private world and you respect the dignity of the other person.

Once this is felt, once in a while you may go on separate holidays, come back again and there will be no need to be worried. You will be surprised that when your woman comes back to you after living with some other man for seven days, and you come back to your woman after living with some other woman for seven days, you both have learned some new things. You can have another honeymoon again. You are new and fresh, and you have learned new tricks. And it is always good to have fresh experiences, enrichment.
It is not that you need enlightenment and only then jealousy will disappear; you only need human understanding, intelligence, and jealousy will disappear.

So don't wait for enlightenment! I know many sannyasins are waiting for enlightenment, and meanwhile being as much jealous as possible, because after enlightenment you cannot!

Osho,
Socrates Poisoned Again After 25 Centuries
Chapter #21

"But I Have Stopped to Dream...."

From tonight, I am not looking for you any more..
not even one of you hidden in some of him
or in many
I do not need your embraces
to feel your wish towards me
your sifts to listen
your yearnings to fulfill

From tonight I walk alone
I am walking, straight as a queen
aware of her own mights
which is admiring the beauty of her kingdom
which is serving to it by all her powers
by all her soul escaped from the heaven
and to heaven returned

From tonight the world is shiny drop on the palm
most valuable
mine

This time

This time I will only be
Let the centuries flow through the vastness of the soul
Let the worlds collide somewhere else
Let the wars calm down
and the warriors through their weapons away

This time
Only silence will merge with the beats of this heart
only stars will shine outside and within

Dazzled thoughts

Not to expect anything from anyone.

To live your own life.

When you are continuing your life with wrong persons, and your lives actually "stands", and are not moving anywhere, your lives in the fact are going backwards.



To accept the loneliness.
Not to fight against the mud, against the walls of caterpillar.

To accept the mud, the caterpillar.
The loneliness.

Your own life, however it is.
Yourself, however you are.

Until you do not love yourself,
with that unconditioned love that you dream about,
till that the most supreme love is not the part of your relationship towards your life and life itself,
until you first are not the represent of that love,
till then
that love
in your relationships with other people,
will not enter your life.

So you have to become and be so in love with "Her", or with that the most pure, the most supreme, the most alive life,
so that no personal sacrifice is not and not to be hard...

So the story of unconditioned love
is in fact the story of Self-transformation.

To become a being which that kind of love evokes in others..
it means to be a deserving represent

and there all techniques are becoming only the instrument,
and you become your first pupil....

One needs to be transformed,
in order to live that love that he is foreseeing...

And you are becoming an instrument in the service of that love...

That means, to dedicate your life to that Love...

'before that, you cannot..
before that, you are just a child that is reading the fairy tales..'

And that means..
- how do you expect to "provoke" love in others
if you do not provoke it in you?

Do you expect others are stupid? Or unable to see?

It means that you be such, that you first truly love yourself,

and you will love yourself
if you live the best yourself that you foresee,
that you are able to be,
and if you make an effort into that direction
to admire your way...


And there is no shortcut.
And there is no easy way.

Which means again, that the wisdom is
when you chose actions which will in long term
make you happy.

And so we come here to the pure Intelligence.
and the qualities that are coming from her, such as
will, persistence, devotion...

Or, to the truthfulness of the saying,
that everyone is the creator of its own happiness.

Or, that if you are not happy,
for that you have to thank to yourself only.

It is Time

It is time to become beautiful
as a butterfly
from the caterpillar
or a lotus flower
from the mud...

It is time to become
the best one can be

to make this world
more graceful.

The time is Now.

The Spring of this Existance
is waiting for our flourishing...

Dedication

To dedicate One's own life to Spiritual,

Is there Anything Higher?

If...

If you cannot be a Friend

you cannot be a Lover...

Question of Life

Life,

is a mesmerizing pool of possibilities.

But the real question is:

Do I Want To Be Happy :))?

Three or more In Love

I love you, my love.
And I love that I love you.
And I love all the ones you love
Because you love them.

The Salvation

The Salvation is in
Losing up the boundaries
In spreading the boundaries so wide
till there is None.
Only Unconditional Love
is capable for longest lasting.
Only Unconditional Love
can Really lasts forever
and become Eternal.

Satya

Be who you Say you Are

... or don't speak at all...

Message

Openness

Eternity

Sun that Shines
in the Chests

Come
Into Me
from Above

And Change
My Perception
And Life
Forever

The Travellers

We are all travellers
from one world
to Another
It is the speed
that we are choosing
not the Goal

Spiritual

There are those
who are in love with
Freedom

And those
who are only trying
to escape from
their own caves..

In me, Somewhere Deep

In me Somewhere Deep inside
Behind all that pain and despair
Lives a God
Lives a Divine
Unadultereted
Pure
Pure joy
Endless Smile
And Love
Somewhere Inside me behind all the
Veils
Lives Enlightened
Immenseness
It is the only real spring
Of all my joys
In me somewhere completely deep within
God
And from time to time it rises
And dazzle with its beauty
Everything else
For these moments
Worth of living for
And that is changing me
It plays the gentlest music
On the strings of my Soul
Makes me a bird
And a poet of Kindness
Beyond the Space
Beyond the Time
It, Beloved
In me, somewhere deep